the ' saying' dilemma :P

to say or not to say, thats the question.....

see thts wat happens whn u start studying for an xam 3 (omg 3!!!!) days in advance, u cant concentrate n u start  gettign werid thoughts into ur head:P

specially if u r studying a subject like CAS, nothing can beat tht....

 ya as i was saying, 'to say or not to say, is the question' (  i totally respect Shakespear, no offence meant to him).....

i guess  most people might have understood by now wat i m talking abt.... if not..... well there is nothing much tht i can do abt it, this is something u ought to understand urself, woh kehte hai na-' samajhdar ko ishara kafi hai'   :P

coming back to our basic question- ' to say or not to say'

i guess almost 50% of us r facing or have faced this dilemma at some point of there life - "should i say or should i not??", " what will the other person feel if i say??", "what will the other person feel if i dont say?", how will he/ she react??"," wat if he/she is offended?", "wat if he/she is hurt?"

" is this the rite time??" "or should i wait for some more time??", " will the person be in the rite frame of mind??", " is the situation rite??", " should i have said it earlier??", " should i postpone it till everything becomes perfect??" or " should i say it all??"

these and a thousand more contemplations and we come back to where we started from- ' to say or not to say'.

why does it become so difficult to express ourselves in front of tht person whom we feel knows us the best, or rather with whom we can talk for hours together on any topic under the sun???

i mean ,come on, this is one person with whom u have shared everything and then suddenly u r unable to express urself!!!!!! how ironic can it get???

y does it get so complicated?

is it possible for just one line to change everything??, y does it have to affect us so much??

i guess wat most of us fear more than rejection is the end of it all.......

thats why the contemplations- ' to say or not to say'....

is there really a correct answer to this question????

different people have different opinions.......

according to some its best to wait till the time is rite......

but then how do u know the time is rite?? it can happen tht u keep on waititng n then one fine day u realise the time has already passed n now thr's nothing tht u can do abt it..

so should we just wait n watch??

some think its best never to say anything n let the other person understand....

but then isnt there a huge risk of getting misunderstood or rather just assuming things?? both of which can lead to undesirable consequences...

some believe in just saying.....

well ya its not tht easy, n yes all the above mentioned contemplations come into picture.....

in this case there is no risk of assuming things but ya ur worst fears can come true ( y so even i dunno, but the possibility cannot be ignored)

n even if they dont well thr r other things, awkward silences, stick situations, the charm is lost i guess..

so its basically a never ending debate...........

i m confused......

wats ur say????